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saviour2012
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i do not have any personal experience on the matter
But it is bugging me too much for a number of reasons
1. My roommate today cried and has not eaten all day for this
2. Another of my good friend is suffering for this.
3. Many members of tavern have or are suffering for this issue
In my instance, neither i can console nor i can accept this behavior
as i simply do not understand where does this feeling come from.
what i understand is Love is Tough.
Can anyone suggest how can i understand this so that i can help people who have this kind problem. At-least i can help my roommate.
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Calforsale
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Yeah i'm with you too saviour. I've been on a couple of dates but haven't been in a relationship or in Love. When friends come to me with these problems i don't feel i can give the best help either. But just being a general good friend, helping them is still very useful.
I remember though, after one of my friends boyfriend broke up with her, and she was saying how he said it was him and not her, and he still wanted to be friends. Then one of her other friends said something like 'They think that makes it easier, but it doesn't, it just makes it harder' and it felt like the perfect thing to say. She however has has had a load of experience in dating lol though.
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husky51
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saviour2012
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@calforsale
the most irritating part is I can't say anything. cause
if I say you should not have a relationship at this age it will be awkward
if I say this behavior is not necessary it will be awkward
if i ask why are you so worried the world is not at the end it will be awkward
if i say your girlfriend might not be even sad it will be awkward
if i say teenage people cries for love it will be awkward
If I say everything will be alright cheer up man it will be awkward.
so basically almost everything I say will be awkward except you should eat some food.
That is kind of awkward to me.lol
this basically happens with the long distance girlfriend.
But one thing is for sure that this is basically a problem for people who think they are enough adult(although they are only 14-21)
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Post last edited by saviour2012 on 02.23.2013, 03:20 AM.
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When people are down, saviour, they don't need understanding or sympathy. They need support.
Which is all your friend needs right now.
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husky51
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saviour2012
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quote:
Originally posted by Roarkiller
When people are down, saviour, they don't need understanding or sympathy. They need support.
Which is all your friend needs right now.
I agree too. that's what I am trying to do from my heart.
but sometimes I just do not understand why all on a sudden he feels bad. And when that happens I feel awkward to do anything
. After all i am not his parent so I can't say if anything is right or wrong.
But I learnt that emotions are real even for a short time.
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Watch everything but only take the good things from it
Ask, think and learn. Because the more we know the more we grow.
Watching the wrong to happen is the same as commiting the wrong.
If it looks like things are forcing you to be creative, Then be creative.
its a uniquely Miyazaki film, one only he could make and its uniqueness places it beyond being easily critiqued.[About Porco Rosso]
taken from a quote of Saddletank and Orphic Okapi
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arren18
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I'd say you're overthinking it. Don't worry about what exactly to say or do. Just be nice.
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I'm in a relationship now, will be 8 months on 17th.
You will never know what love is, or be able to even begin to understand until you are in the situation.
I've had many crushes and flings before, that I thought was love. I guess it was just lust.
I am happier than I have every been with my current girlfriend, but because the high's are so high, it means the low's are lower.
Love is like your favourite food, once you have tried it you just want more.
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Tea Master Tall
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I'd say just support them, and tell them it wasn't their fault, even if it was, lol... Luckily, my suffering is over. When I see her it returns, but that's why I just stay as far away as possible. Just tell them to try and forget about that other person and try to start focusing on their own life again. Even though I'm pretty much over everything, my brain for whatever the reason keeps reminding me "I'm right" every so often. It just takes time...
Funny how she would always say "Time heals everything". What utter bullshit. There's still wars and terror in the world, sitting around waiting for time to heal everything is just a waste of a life. Time doesn't really heal heartache on it's own either. I'd say it takes time and distance and aging, and even those may not heal it completely.
Sorry, I got off point, but really the best thing that you can do is be a friend. Trying to sympathize would probably just make it worse and encourage that they stay sadder for longer The people who showed no sympathy were the ones who actually helped me the most, because it made me be like I gotta get my **** together, man.
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Koda
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My friend took 9 months to get over a week relationship, it got to the point where I was like really get your **** together man.
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Tea Master Tall
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Yeah, haven't really been on here much. Just been preoccupied with life and whatnot.
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