Posted by Tea Master Tall on 11.30.2010, 12:19 AM: LOVE Hey there, Taverners! This thread is pretty much completely unrelated to ghibli, but what else is General Discussions for, eh?
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Posted by jusomekid on 11.30.2010, 03:05 AM: Wow, so young! Hmm, maybe you should practice bringing up conversations more? Ask her if she has instant messaging, or better yet, invite her to the tavern and talk about ghibli! I find it easier to communicate via instant messaging. But good luck with that!
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Posted by arren18 on 11.30.2010, 06:46 AM:
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Posted by Tea Master Tall on 11.30.2010, 07:24 PM: @jusomekid I don't even think she knows about Ghibli, but I will tell her about.
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Posted by jusomekid on 12.01.2010, 04:33 PM: Even though I'm with someone... I have no idea what Love is yet
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Posted by Yay! Kiki on 12.01.2010, 11:39 PM: Ahh, it's the Love thread! It was sad when the other one died a couple of years ago. D:
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Posted by Kazegami on 12.02.2010, 12:57 PM: Ah, I felt like I loved someone a couple of months ago. Never been that obsessed with anyone before, for a while he was in every single dream I had. But no... since briefly getting close to him I've seen the awful side of him that I never noticed before in the two or three years I've known him. It was a couple of months ago that we broke up, and he's had two girlfriends since then. Seems that that's how it is with him, he doesn't stay with a girl for more than a couple of weeks. Weird guy. Guess he just needs to grow up a bit.
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Posted by Tea Master Tall on 12.05.2010, 03:03 PM: Come on people don't be shy |
Posted by laazd, on 12.06.2010, 10:39 PM: hmmm ... well i've had a boyfriend for over 2 years now and i feel like at the beginning of the relationship everything was going so smooth (and don't get me wrong , our relationship is awesome , he's an amazing guy) but nowww... not even recently , like 2 months in he started getting super jealous. i mean any guy that would msg me via facebook or text me. it was question after question after queeeeeestion. and now i literally don't have one guy friend and before him almost all my friends were male! every time a guy gets brought up or i wanna talk about even a celebrity , he seems to get so mad! i don't know what to do , especially because i love him sooo much! he's always there for me, we can talk about any and everything that's on our minds and we help each other out with it all! we've been through so much and you cant just blow that off. i've tried to talk to him about it but every time i do try he doesn't take it seriously , he just blows it off or tells me something like "it's just the way i am" i can't even explain it. ugh. and i'm totally not a jealous person. i couldn't care less about him having girls that are friends but lately it feels like his jealousy has been rubbing off on me , i always question him and now i don't know what to do , hmmmmmph!
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Posted by dballred on 12.10.2010, 06:48 PM:
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Posted by arren18 on 12.10.2010, 06:53 PM: Alternatively there's the possiblity that people are individuals regardless of which set of action implements they were born with.
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Posted by dballred on 12.10.2010, 11:21 PM:
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Posted by Orphic Okapi on 12.11.2010, 01:40 PM: Men and women are different, yes, but a lot of the "scientific" claims made by Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus have since been proven false. Most of the universal differences he talks about are actually highly variable, and are socially constructed rather than biological. Both male and female jealousy, for example, are not innate at all but vary from culture to culture. Since male and female differences are largely (although not entirely) cultural, it makes more sense to aproach relationships from that perspective. But in the end, because there is so much variation within a given culture, I guess I'd side with Arren and say it's best to approach each relationship on an individual basis.
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Posted by arren18 on 12.12.2010, 10:45 AM: As Orphic pointed out there, culture is extremely important here. Concepts of masculinity and femininity are, in my view, social constructs and not inherently tied to "maleness" or "femaleness".
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Posted by Orphic Okapi on 12.12.2010, 12:47 PM: I agree with a lot of what Arren has to say, especially the stuff about how binary thinking is restrictive and doesn't work when addressing gender issues. However, I will say I don't think all gender differences are cultural or just individual differences - the vast majority to be sure, but there are a few real biological differences between men and women. You can't leave evolution out of things entirely.
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Posted by dballred on 12.12.2010, 03:59 PM:
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Posted by laazd, on 12.13.2010, 10:25 PM: thank you dballred, Orphic Okapi & arren18.
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Posted by dballred on 12.14.2010, 12:42 AM:
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Posted by laazd, on 12.15.2010, 12:02 AM: yeah, he's serious, a bit too serious. but sometimes it can be a good thing. i mean , i love that i have someone looking after me! and maybe the lack of communication is another thing. he doesn't like to open up and tell me how he feels a lot of the time. All i can do is put all my effort into it and work things out. i guess time will tell... maybe he'll change down the road and maybe i'll just have to learn to live with it.
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Posted by Kemi on 12.15.2010, 11:54 AM: Oh, how lovely! A thread about love, I must say it feels good to talk about people on the web who can give good advices in my opinion, some things I could never tell in real life I fear.
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